Hi there!
Life is hard enough. Your marriage doesn't have to be.
Bansari Shah, ICF-Certified Relationship Coach for Moms
Does this sound familiar?
➤ You feel like you're constantly giving everything to your family, but your marriage still feels distant and disconnected
➤ You feel more like roommates than partners, and the loneliness is exhausting
➤ You and your partner keep having the same arguments - and nothing ever really gets resolved
➤ Your emotions feel out of control, and you hate the way you show up in conflict
➤ You did everything "right", and yet your relationship still feels hard and unfulfilling
➤ You're tired of pretending everything is fine when it clearly isn't
➤ You've Googled, read the books, and listened to the podcasts, but nothing seems to stick
➤ You've lost sight of the woman you were before kids and marriage, and you're not sure how to get her back
This is the marriage I want for you!
✶ You feel calm, confident, and emotionally steady — even during hard conversations
✶ You and your partner are finally communicating in a way that brings you closer, not further apart
✶ You know how to protect your marriage through every season of life
✶ Conflict no longer derails your week - you handle it with grace and move forward
✶ You feel genuinely connected to your partner again - emotionally, mentally, and physically
✶ You're modeling a healthy, loving relationship for your children every single day
✶ Life still has hard moments, but you feel grounded, rested, and like yourself again
✶ You've rediscovered who you are outside of being a mom and a wife - and you love her
Here's what clients have to say...
I cannot emphasize enough the profound impact Bansari has had on my journey, particularly in navigating the challenges in my marraige. Her support has been invaluable; she not only validated my experiences but also offered a deep understanding from other perspectives.
R.J.
She helped me navigate a really challenging dynamic in my marriage. She helped me change how I showed up, communicate differently, and approach conflict in a way that created change. We communicate better, there's less tension, and we'eve been able to reconnect in a way that I didn't think was possible.
T.S.
I had a single issue that I wanted to tackle. I thought I would have a first session and then have to have recurring sessions. However, our coaching session was really powerful and I got such clarity on my issue that I didn't need further sessions.
P.H.
My Services
The best way to find out which option is best for you is to send me a voice note detailing your top concerns and goals. and I'll respond within 48 hours. I'll provide you with a 3-step Action Plan so you can move towards your goals starting now - no strings attached!
Voice Note Coaching
If you want support that seamlessly fits into your busy day, this is perfect for you. When you join the monthly full-time plan, you will get personalized daily voice & text messages. EVERY WEEKDAY - the whole month! This is as hands-on as it gets! This option is also available for couples who want to work on their marriage together.
You can send me a voice message and listen to my responses whenever you have a free minute in the day (or even at the end of the night!). This gives you total flexibility, without compromising the power of individual coaching. This also means that you get support in the moment, not two weeks later during a scheduled virtual session. That can make a huge difference!
My voice note coaching comes in two schedule options. With the full-time option, you get hands-on support every week, Monday to Friday. On the part-time maintenance schedule, you get hands-on support every other week, Monday to Friday. I recommend that clients choose the full-time schedule for 1 to 3 months, and then move to the part-time schedule.
For voice note coaching, I suggest that you plan for 1 month of the full schedule coaching, before switching to a maintenance schedule, because it's quite important I get to know you well.
Price: $599 a month (full time - every week of the month)
($299 part time - for every other week of the month)
Cancel Anytime and Get A Prorated Refund - No Questions Asked.
Individual Session
Not sure if you're ready to dive right in with daily voice coaching?
If you’re just looking for support on one small issue, or just want to test the waters, then the best way to do this is to schedule an individual session.
Clients who are highly self-motivated often find that sessions every 6-8 weeks are enough to give them the direction they need to get the most out of their own individual growth work.
45-min Session: $149
Get to Know Me
As a mom of two (and a wife in a 14-year marriage that actually got stronger after our rough patch), I've seen firsthand how easy it is to pour everything into your family and somehow still feel disconnected from the people you love most - especially your partner. That's exactly why I'm so passionate about helping women strengthen their most important relationships - with their spouse, their kids, and honestly, with themselves.
Here's something that has always stuck with me: the longest-running study on happiness found that the quality of your relationships is the single biggest predictor of how happy you are. Not your career. Not your income. Your relationships. That means the work you do on your marriage isn't a luxury - it's everything.
If you who feel like something is off in your relationship and you're not sure how to fix it, you're in the right place. I'm here to help you find your way back - to your partner, to yourself, and to the life you actually want.
Frequently Asked Questions
Honestly, you don't really, but that's the truth of working with any professional. You can check my instagram to see if the content makes sense to you and you get the sense that I know what I'm talking about (I do, but what matters is that YOU feel like I do). If it helps, I have a masters in adult education from Columbia University (the top education institute in the US) and I am certified by the International Coaching Federation, a well-respected coaching program. You can always cancel after you enroll, even after just one week of coaching. You won't hurt my feelings :-)
Actually, both! The majority of my clients are women, because they are often struggling to convince their partner to participate. So I help them start with themselves, which can often cause a positive ripple effect. But I also see couples through my voice note option. I do not see couples in individual sessions, but do see couples through voice note coaching. The reason for this is that my coaching is learning-focused, so there is an emphasis on doing a limited amount of 'homewok', such as watching short videos or answering 2-3 questions.
Couples therapy is typically focused on ongoing arguments and dissolving layers of resentment that have set in - which is typical of long-term couples who have been stuck in a pattern of chronic fighting. It can be emotionally exhausting, expensive, and slow work. Couples typically find that it takes months to years before seeing a big shift in their marriage. Coaching is designed to shift your life more quickly because it's more action-oriented.
Not at all. Probably half of my clients are not moms. You're reading this because recently (early 2026), I began targeting moms more, because they tend to have the least amount of time and energy, so voice note coaching is the perfect fit in terms of flexibility and scheduling. But I actually strongly recommend working on these issues BEFORE having kids - trust me...it's way easier to do the work before!!
Maybe! I am a huge fan of individual therapy and believe it's for everyone. If you're in a place where you are experiencing depression, anxiety, heavy trauma, then yes - therapy is the first place to turn to for these scenerios. Many of my clients have done a few months (or longer) of therapy or are currently doing therapy in addition to coaching. Therapy is focused on digging into the past and uncovering the reasons behind your patterns. It's the 'why'. This is very important. Coaching is focused on how to (relatively) quickly overcome these patterns and change your present life in noticeable ways. It's the 'Now what?'
Typically a few months. This isn't meant to be a long-term relationship, as in years. I coach clients anywhere from 3-8 months, but typically, only the beginning months are full time coaching and we move to a part-time schedule when the client feels ready for it.
That's okay. I can respect some healthy skepticism. If you aren't sure, just scroll up and send me a voice note and tell me about your current situation, your top goal for the next 2 months, what problem you are struggling with, and your concerns. It's 100% free and confidential. I'll send you a reply within 48 hours with my thoughts and suggestions, and next steps you can take on your own. If you like my reply, then that's a good sign that coaching with me might be right for you. If you don't, that's okay and I hope you do find your right fit!
No big deal. Just let me know this isn't working for you and I'll send you a refund for the remainder of the month.
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